I don’t know if it is just because of the groups I belong to, pages I like, and people I am friends with, but this has been ALL OVER Facebook today.
Well, probably all social media, but Facebook is as far as I venture into social media-land.
Everyone has felt it their place to give their opinions on this, most of them opinions of shock and horror. I find that interesting because no one can actually even read the article yet.
The article is actually on attachment parenting, a type of parenting that comes naturally to many, but is a term that has largely been pioneered by Dr Sears. One of the principles that is suggested is extended breastfeeding, which is obviously what this cover is using to grab the entire nation’s (or at least those of us on Facebook) attention.
Everyone has been picking apart this photo: the kid looks too old, he doesn’t look very “attached”, the mom’s pose is too sexy, no one breastfeeds standing up.
These are all silly to me. What gets me is the title of the article: “Are You Mom Enough?”
I just can’t help but think that this whole discussion is at the bottom of one of our society’s most obnoxious battles: The Mommy Wars.
The Mommy Wars (my definition): Trying to make other women feel bad about their parenting decisions.
So why can’t we all get along? As parents, as people, we all choose to make different decisions. It is okay for us to not agree, and it is okay to discuss those differences, as well as the reasons we make such decisions. But if one mother chooses to breastfeed and another choose to formula feed, why try to make the other feel bad about it? And if one mother choose to wean at 12 months, and another at 36, who cares? The only people who should care are the direct parties involved.
Also, just because no one seems to be looking at this, there are 5 other photos in the article, of different women, that are shown here.
Despite my hatred of the Mommy Wars, the normalization of breastfeeding in our country is a bit of fight. Whether or not someone chooses to breastfeed, or is able to breastfeed, the act of breastfeeding shouldn’t be such a foreign thing. So whether this article presents attachment parenting in a positive or negative light (word is we won’t know until May 21st), I do think a breastfeeding woman on the cover of TIME, no matter what side of the war they’re on, is a huge step.
TIME happens to be one of the magazines that we have a subscription to, so I will definitely be reading it. With print media going out of style, TIME has obviously done a fabulous job of doing what magazines now really need to do: grab our attention.






















































